The French Approach to Intimacy
A simple caress…yet so powerful when expressed with real chemistry.
Intimacy isn’t just about closeness—it’s about connection, vulnerability, which leads to true chemistry. In France, intimacy is woven into the fabric of daily life, from the way we greet each other with la bise (those cheek kisses) to the deep conversations over wine that last for hours. Today, let’s explore what makes the French approach to intimacy so unique—and how it might inspire your own relationships.
“Intimacy isn’t just about closeness—it’s about connection, vulnerability, which leads to true chemistry”
The French Way: Intimacy as an Art
In France, intimacy is less about grand gestures and more about the little things. It’s the lingering eye contact across a crowded café, the unspoken understanding between lovers, or the way a simple touch can say more than words. Here’s why it works:
Emotional Depth: We value conversations that go beyond the surface—talking about dreams, desires, and fantasies is normal and yes even on first dates.
Physical Connection: Touch is a love language here, from a hand on the arm to a warm embrace.
Time: We believe intimacy is time sensitive, depending on the connection you may have, rushed connections rarely feel authentic but instant connections might also blow your mind.
It’s not about perfection; it’s about one word... CHEMISTRY…and that’s something anyone should feel and embrace.
You see many people nowadays over complicate things, over analyze the situation and that leads to mixed feelings, uncomprehensivness which often leads to failure. You should be your true self, BE you, say what you think is right for you, and DO what you WANT to do.
I often tell my “clients” to not act the way society wants you to act, because society evolves with time, what is relevant now my not be in 20 years and surely wasn’t 30years ago, yet relationships and intimacy stays and had stayed the same over centuries.
If you want to be intimate with a person do it because you feel its right for you, because YOU want to do it, not because the guy in front of you has asked you or because you obey to a “law” of having 3 dates and the guy has passed the “exam”… If a guy just want to have sex with you and nothing else… he will wait and you have just wasted your time and energy.
Conclusion: A Little French Twist for Your Life
The French approach to intimacy is about savoring the moment and letting connections unfold naturally. It’s a reminder that true closeness comes from being present, not perfect. So, how can you bring a little of this into your life? Maybe it’s lingering over a conversation or letting a touch speak for itself. Just please do NOT over think it and IF you are scared of losing the person over the way you behaved… maybe he just isn’t the right person for you.
I’d love to hear your thoughts—drop a comment and let’s keep the conversation going!